Dictionary.com defines fear as,
“a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc, whether the threat is real or imagined.”
I have so many fears, and most of them are not real, they are mostly internal. I have fears about what is going on in life right now, and even for what the future might bring. All of these fears are out of my control. By fearing the unknown, I am only enabling myself of opportunities.
I was reading an amazing book that was given to me by my friend, Melanie, called, “Business Boutique.” It is a book for women who are interested in having their own business doing what they love to do. Her second chapter is all about fear, and how it is normal and ok. That was such a relief. Reading this chapter, I felt like she wrote it for people like me, people who fear trying new things. Here is what really stuck out to me.
“Fear isn’t a sign that you’re doing something wrong. It’s a sign that you’re doing something new. It doesn’t mean you’re not capable, qualified, or ready. It just means you’re doing something that matters to you. And fear doesn’t mean you’re doing something bad. It means you’re doing something bold.”
I read this over and over in my head and out loud. This is exactly what I needed to hear. This applies to everything I do in my life. My fear of teaching third grade. I know I am qualified but it is all the “what if’s” that scare the heck out of me. Fear of trying this blogging thing. What if I’m not qualified? What if people read this and hate it? What if they publicly shame my blog on social media? (I can delete the haters and their posts and comments.) What if someone has the same thoughts and ideas as me, but they do it better?
The reality of it is, I will fail, someone will embarrass me. Every blog I write will not touch or reach everyone. This is life. What I do about it, is what counts.
“You have to keep going even thought it hurts, even though you are scared and you’ve lost faith in yourself. Even if it scarred you to the core, you have to keep going anyway. Pushing through the failures is the only way we have a chance to reach success.”
If I focus so much on all that I can’t control, I will never get anywhere in life. I will never venture out and try something new. All of these fears feed my anxiety which is what I am always trying to work on.
So I am going to take my fears, recognize them, and put them away. I will not let them stop me from trying new things or doing what I love. This is part of conscience living because I am aware of my fears, and I am consciously facing my fears to push through. I encourage you to do the same. Think about what is keeping you back from what you really want to do? Recognize that fear, and push through it!
Tell me a fear that you have or once had. What have you done, or what are you going to do to push through it?
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